Divorce is never a pleasant experience. You look upon it as a failure.
But I learned to be a different person once we broke up. Sometimes you
learn more from failure than you do from success. – Michael Crawford
Divorce can cause any sane person to go crazy. It can feel disheartening
and stressful. However, by keeping your cool, you can not only salvage
relationships, but you will also be able to carry on more effectively.
This may seem easier said than done. We have simple tips to help you stay
in control and sane during the divorce process.
Tips to Help You Keep Your Cool
1.Take Care of Yourself – With the onslaught of emotions that divorce can cause, it is easy to forget
about yourself. You may spend time worrying about the kids or what others
think. However, take a moment, take a breath, and focus on yourself. Check
in to see what you need. Make the right decision for yourself. Don’t
place all the blame on yourself.
2.Keep the Lines of Communication Open (If You Can) – Keeping the lines of communication open may be helpful in alleviating
some of the stress and tension divorce causes. If you and your ex mutually
agreed on divorce, talking to them can be easier. Let them know what you’re
thinking and what you need out of this breakup.
3.Realize This Will Pass – Divorce can feel like a never-ending nightmare. From the discussions with
your attorney to the negotiations, it can feel like you’re constantly
justifying your decisions. Just know that this too shall pass. You will
be able to take a breath and put this divorce behind you.
4.Know What You Want – One thing to help the divorce process is knowing what you want. The better
understanding you have of your needs, the better you will be able to communicate
them to your spouse, and the faster you two can come to an agreement.
This can help prevent the other side from persuading you.
5.Get Out and Socialize – Take a moment to spend time with your kids, reconnect with old friendships,
or make new friendships. Stepping out of the house and having fun can
eliminate some of the anxiety you can feel during your divorce. Taking
a moment to enjoy yourself can not only help you, but also help others
in your life who love you.
6.Communicate Instead of React – Communication implies intent and forethought. In contrast, when you react,
you’re on the defensive. Don’t play defense. Know what you
want to say and say it. This will allow you more control and less sense
Divorce can take a toll on your mental health and emotions. We hope these tips
help you keep your cool during the process. For legal counsel and to protect
contact our Rancho Cucamonga divorce attorneys today for a free consultation.