If you are considering filing for divorce – or have already begun
divorce proceedings – you've likely spoken with people who provide helpful
advice or words or warning. This is because divorce is a complicated matter
and because there are in fact a number of mistakes a person can make which
can threaten their interests and their case.
At James D. Madden, Attorney at Law, our divorce attorneys speak with many
clients and local individuals who seek experienced advice about what and
what not to do. Over the years, we've heard all types of concerns,
and we've seen people make all types of mistakes. Below are five common
mistakes you should avoid when getting a divorce.
Allowing emotions to take control – There is no doubt that divorce can be a complicated, difficult,
and emotionally turbulent journey. Although this may be the case, try
not to let emotions get the best of you. Stay calm, grounded, and focused
on what you can do to secure a positive future. This means avoiding things
like slandering your spouse, openly discussing your case on social media,
and saying or doing anything you may regret later. Give yourself some
time to talk things over with an attorney or trusted friend or family
Not thinking about your children – In the drama of a divorce, it can be easy to forget that the process can
greatly affect children. Take the time to discuss your divorce with your
kids, being age specific, and letting them know that divorce is not a
bad thing nor is it their fault. You don't have to give your children
all of the details, and you shouldn't talk negatively about a spouse
in front of them.
Believing everything others say about divorce – Talking things out with friends or family can be helpful; believing
everything they say about divorce is not. Remember that everyone is different,
every family different, and every divorce unique. Take what others say
about the process with a grain of salt.
Not consulting a lawyer – Divorce can entail complicated legal proceedings, especially if
children are involved. Working with experienced lawyers who are familiar
with the process and local courts can be invaluable to the end results
you get. Our attorneys can help you understand your legal rights, and
they can walk you step-by-step through the process.
Taking a backseat approach – If you hire a lawyer it may be easy to want to sit back and have
them handle everything on your behalf, but this is never recommended.
Take an active approach in your case by being open and honest with your
lawyer and taking the time to collect and provide them with the things
If you have questions about your divorce case, contact our legal team for a
free, confidential case evaluation.