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6 Tips for Keeping Your Cool During the Divorce Process 04-08-2016

6 Tips for Keeping Your Cool During the Divorce Process

Divorce is never a pleasant experience. You look upon it as a failure. But I learned to be a different person once we broke up. Sometimes you learn more from failure than you do from success. – Michael Crawford

Divorce can cause any sane person to go crazy. It can feel disheartening and stressful. However, by keeping your cool, you can not only salvage relationships, but you will also be able to carry on more effectively. This may seem easier said than done. We have simple tips to help you stay in control and sane during the divorce process.

Tips to Help You Keep Your Cool

1.Take Care of Yourself – With the onslaught of emotions that divorce can cause, it is easy to forget about yourself. You may spend time worrying about the kids or what others think. However, take a moment, take a breath, and focus on yourself. Check in to see what you need. Make the right decision for yourself. Don’t place all the blame on yourself.

2.Keep the Lines of Communication Open (If You Can) – Keeping the lines of communication open may be helpful in alleviating some of the stress and tension divorce causes. If you and your ex mutually agreed on divorce, talking to them can be easier. Let them know what you’re thinking and what you need out of this breakup.

3.Realize This Will Pass – Divorce can feel like a never-ending nightmare. From the discussions with your attorney to the negotiations, it can feel like you’re constantly justifying your decisions. Just know that this too shall pass. You will be able to take a breath and put this divorce behind you.

4.Know What You Want – One thing to help the divorce process is knowing what you want. The better understanding you have of your needs, the better you will be able to communicate them to your spouse, and the faster you two can come to an agreement. This can help prevent the other side from persuading you.

5.Get Out and Socialize – Take a moment to spend time with your kids, reconnect with old friendships, or make new friendships. Stepping out of the house and having fun can eliminate some of the anxiety you can feel during your divorce. Taking a moment to enjoy yourself can not only help you, but also help others in your life who love you.

6.Communicate Instead of React – Communication implies intent and forethought. In contrast, when you react, you’re on the defensive. Don’t play defense. Know what you want to say and say it. This will allow you more control and less sense of helplessness.

Divorce can take a toll on your mental health and emotions. We hope these tips help you keep your cool during the process. For legal counsel and to protect your rights, contact our Rancho Cucamonga divorce attorneys today for a free consultation.

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