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5 Common Mistakes To Avoid When Getting A Divorce 12-01-2014

5 Common Mistakes To Avoid When Getting A Divorce

If you are considering filing for divorce – or have already begun divorce proceedings – you've likely spoken with people who provide helpful advice or words or warning. This is because divorce is a complicated matter and because there are in fact a number of mistakes a person can make which can threaten their interests and their case.

At James D. Madden, Attorney at Law, our divorce attorneys speak with many clients and local individuals who seek experienced advice about what and what not to do. Over the years, we've heard all types of concerns, and we've seen people make all types of mistakes. Below are five common mistakes you should avoid when getting a divorce.

  • Allowing emotions to take control – There is no doubt that divorce can be a complicated, difficult, and emotionally turbulent journey. Although this may be the case, try not to let emotions get the best of you. Stay calm, grounded, and focused on what you can do to secure a positive future. This means avoiding things like slandering your spouse, openly discussing your case on social media, and saying or doing anything you may regret later. Give yourself some time to talk things over with an attorney or trusted friend or family member first.
  • Not thinking about your children – In the drama of a divorce, it can be easy to forget that the process can greatly affect children. Take the time to discuss your divorce with your kids, being age specific, and letting them know that divorce is not a bad thing nor is it their fault. You don't have to give your children all of the details, and you shouldn't talk negatively about a spouse in front of them.
  • Believing everything others say about divorce – Talking things out with friends or family can be helpful; believing everything they say about divorce is not. Remember that everyone is different, every family different, and every divorce unique. Take what others say about the process with a grain of salt.
  • Not consulting a lawyer – Divorce can entail complicated legal proceedings, especially if children are involved. Working with experienced lawyers who are familiar with the process and local courts can be invaluable to the end results you get. Our attorneys can help you understand your legal rights, and they can walk you step-by-step through the process.
  • Taking a backseat approach – If you hire a lawyer it may be easy to want to sit back and have them handle everything on your behalf, but this is never recommended. Take an active approach in your case by being open and honest with your lawyer and taking the time to collect and provide them with the things they need.

If you have questions about your divorce case, contact our legal team for a free, confidential case evaluation.

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